- We have to look at what’s wrong with us: Perhaps change is difficult because it forces us to look at the areas of ourselves that need improvement, and although we’re good at pointing out the superficial things (i.e. the way we look on the outside), real and lasting change happens from the inside out. These inside issues that need to be fixed can be big or small, but refusing to acknowledge and address them can leave us emotionally stunted and unable to grow.
- We have to commit doing something different: Whatever the internal change is that needs to be made is the result of some habit (or collection of habits) that we have grown accustomed to. Change requires us to leave the safety of what we feel has worked for so long in search of something else that is unknown. Think of how difficult it would be to get Linus away from his blanket. Our habits have become just like a security blanket to us, but there comes a time when we have to let go of the old to make way for the new.
- We have to trust the process: I can’t count the number of times I’ve said this to individuals and families that I’ve worked with over the years, and although it sounds good, it’s perhaps the most difficult piece of the puzzle. Trust requires vulnerability, and in today’s society it’s hard to be truly vulnerable. It’s natural to feel concerned about how people will perceive you. You have to remember, though, that this isn’t for or about them, it’s ALL ABOUT YOU. Trusting the process is about knowing that you want to be a better you, and that you are committed to doing just that! When it gets difficult, remember why you started and let that pull you through.
What changes have you made? How did you survive the process? Leave a comment below and share your thoughts.